Relationship ups&downs

EVERY relationship has its ups and downs where we basically agree to disagree. No matter the relation between the parties involved, for example: sister,brother,cousin,friend,significant other. 

"You catch my drift."

But today I want to focus more on having problems with your spouse and learning how to work through the hardships. 

"Trust me I've been there lol."

It seems as if nobody really talks about how we tend to tear eachother down sometimes without even noticing how much you really hurt his/her feelings. Its rare that you end up with a person that's had the same up bringing as you and endured most of the same problems in life therefore, somewhere along the line will be miscommunication. Which leads to more arguments most of them probably could have been avoided. Some fights may scar a person for a life time or only for a moment, leaving them to feel as if their unappreciated or unwanted. Truthfully, deep down both parties just feel misunderstood but they are to busy looking at the problem at hand. Im not referring to if something happens to cause the argument. But if the problem persists both of you need to take time to reflect on yourselves and figure out what makes you tick and what happened to make you that way. Then sit down and talk about why you get so upset when xyz happens then maybe you could gain a better understanding, that way you could start to avoid those smaller things that don't cause for a fight. But only do this when you have looked in the mirror and addressed your own flaws and came to a point where you decide to move on and change your ways, let go of the things that caused the foundation in your relationship to crack. Ladies we have a tendency to speak up when we see fit but guys will call it "nagging." The thing with this is we have to know when enough is enough and stop bringing up the past problems we have had and try to focus on the future of the relationship. If you have repeatedly stated how he made you feel and he's apologized multiple times its time to let it go and MOVE ON. How would you feel if he hung your mistskes and regrets over your head everytime he got upset? I'm sure you wouldnt be to happy about that, it would be like a dark cloud following you where ever you go in constant reminder of something you aren't proud of. Who would want that? I'd get away as soon as possible because depression is real don't be the cause of the problem be the solution. Try to actually listen to eachother and understand how they feel. In my generation most relationships fail because lack of communication. All im all learn what makes you happy and unhappy set boundaries, take some me time every now and then, keep it fresh, go on dates, try new things together, travel, cook meals together. Make new memories and cherish every moment. It takes time to heal and forgive but not all wounds heal the same, some may take longer than others but as long as you are willing to try, anything is possible!

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